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7 Effective Communication Tips for Families

Strong communication is the foundation of healthy family relationships. Whether you’re dealing with conflicts or just trying to stay connected, here are seven tips for better communication:

  1. Listen Actively: Focus on what’s being said without interrupting. Show empathy and genuine interest.

  2. Express Appreciation Regularly: Show gratitude and acknowledge the good things family members do.

  3. Set Aside Quality Time: Spend dedicated time together without distractions, whether it’s during meals, outings, or simple conversations.

  4. Avoid Blame and Judgment: Use “I” statements instead of “You” statements to express how you feel without accusing others.

  5. Encourage Openness: Create a safe space where everyone feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings.

  6. Respect Boundaries: Understand and honour each other’s personal space and emotional needs.

  7. Be Patient: Communication takes time and practice. Be patient with each other’s growth and efforts.


Applying these tips can significantly strengthen family bonds and promote a healthier, more harmonious home.



Inheritance and Family Tensions: Navigating Difficult Conversations

Inheritance can be a difficult subject to approach, particularly when emotions, family dynamics, and differing opinions come into play. A recent message from a client sheds light on such a situation:


"Our grandmother recently passed away and left a significant inheritance for her grandchildren. Our parents, who are already wealthy, have asked us to give a portion of our inheritance to the new additions to the family. However, I don’t agree with this request and feel conflicted. Am I the bad guy for not wanting to share my inheritance?"


This dilemma touches on the intersection of family loyalty, fairness, and personal values. Inheritance isn’t just about money; it’s about legacy, love, and sometimes, painful decisions.



Understanding the Emotional Complexity of Inheritance

Inheritance often brings up more than just financial considerations, it can stir up deep emotional issues, especially when family relationships are involved. Here’s why this situation may feel particularly difficult:

  • The Legacy of the Deceased: Your grandmother’s wishes and the way she chose to divide the inheritance are key to understanding the emotional weight of the decision. She didn’t include the “new additions” in her will, and that decision may have been intentional.

  • Family Loyalty vs. Fairness: You want to be fair to all family members, but it’s also natural to question whether it’s right to give part of your inheritance to individuals who were not included in the will.

  • Fear of Judgement: When asked to share with others, it can feel like you’re being judged for not being generous enough, even if your decision is based on your grandmother’s wishes.



How to Navigate This Family Dilemma

While your emotions and perspective are completely valid, here are some ways to approach this difficult situation with care and respect for everyone involved:

  1. Reflect on Your Values and Boundaries: It’s important to be clear about your values. For many, inheritance represents a tangible connection to the deceased. If your grandmother intentionally left out the new additions, it may feel disrespectful to her legacy to share her gift with them. Trust your instincts, and set clear boundaries around what feels right for you.

  2. Have an Open and Honest Conversation: Rather than holding in your feelings, it’s crucial to have an open conversation with your family. Share your perspective with your parents and siblings in a calm and respectful manner. Express why you feel uncomfortable about the request and how it conflicts with the way you understand your grandmother’s intentions.

  3. Consider the New Additions’ Perspective: While it may be difficult, try to consider how the “new additions” might feel. They may feel awkward or out of place in a situation where they aren’t part of the inheritance but are still part of the family. Empathy for their position can help guide the conversation and find a resolution that respects everyone’s feelings.

  4. Find a Middle Ground: If you’re open to it, you might be able to negotiate a solution that’s fair to everyone. Perhaps a small gesture of goodwill, such as offering a symbolic amount, could help bridge the gap without compromising your values.



AM I the bad guy?

The short answer: No. You’re not a "bad guy" for honouring your grandmother’s wishes. It’s a complex and emotional situation, and it’s natural to feel conflicted. The key is to approach it with empathy, understanding, and open communication.


Family dynamics can be tricky, especially when money is involved, but you are entitled to your feelings and your decision. Ultimately, it’s about respecting the wishes of your loved ones, both the deceased and the living, while honouring your own values and boundaries.


If you’re facing a similar situation or struggling with family dynamics and inheritance, I’m here to help you navigate those difficult conversations. Reach out for a private coaching session where we can explore the emotional complexities and find a path forward that feels right for you.




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